Tonight I watched the sweet little movie from the 90’s called: “You’ve Got Mail” starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan. Here’s the synopsis from Google: https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=you%27ve%20got%20mail
“Struggling boutique bookseller Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan) hates Joe Fox (Tom Hanks), the owner of a corporate Foxbooks chain store that just moved in across the street. When they meet online, however, they begin an intense and anonymous Internet romance, oblivious of each other's true identity. Eventually Joe learns that the enchanting woman he's involved with is actually his business rival. He must now struggle to reconcile his real-life dislike for her with the cyber love he's come to feel.”
When I watched it this time, I was so engrossed in the vibrational alignment of the characters and how at any point they could have missed out on their own true heart’s desires.
Work - She is running her mother’s bookstore and at one point poses the question to the cosmic void: “What am I really doing with my life?” Here we get our first glimpse that she is not in alignment with her own true heart’s desire, but rather she’s holding on to the memory of her beloved mother.
She chooses to close the bookstore. Her friend tells her “Closing the store is the brave thing to do!” She could have redesigned it, making it into a different kind of bookstore. Or since she had the space, she could have opened another kind of store – a flower shop or a Starbucks. But since her focus was on “being put out of business” that is what happened, which actually puts her in alignment with her own path of becoming a writer.
Relationships – She is “practically living with a man” and they are “so right for each other.” They get into a little tiff at the movies and luckily he understands and acknowledges what he has just done and apologizes, for her part she is receptive to his apology and together the break off their relationship – genuinely happy and excited for the other. You could see they were in alignment with themselves, knowing what they wanted, and understanding of the other person.
Online Friend – Even though they don’t know who the other one is, their energies are vibrating on the same level. What are the chances of them finding each other in a chat room – that is synchronicity! They are on the same vibrational levels. Her-running her mother’s bookstore. Him-3rd generation bookstore owner. They both love New York. They both appreciate the simple things: “a bouquet of sharpened pencils.” You see them bonding over their deep truths and real values even though they think they are being vague with “no specifics.”
Her online friend has advised her to “Go to the mattresses! Fight! Fight to the death!” against her adversary. She does just that. She goes on the defense and she comes out swinging. When he confronts her at the coffee, for the first time she is able to dip into her anger vibration towards this person and attack “with the perfect blend of poetry and meanness.” But she feels right away, that’s not who she really is or wants to be. She feels herself out of alignment.
She could have been bitter and angry at towards her internet friend for standing her up at the coffee shop– but instead she reaches out into the cosmic void with love and hope that he will still be there.
At her lowest point, she’s sick and down, and her ‘enemy’ shows up on her doorstep. She could have attacked and screamed and hated him, but she was apologetic in her anger. Even though he “put her out of business” she was receptive to his friendship and he was understanding of where she was coming from. And then, as he tucks her into bed, they feel the spark! If she had thrown him out or if he hadn’t come over, they could have missed that electric moment. She could have stayed in her angry vibration, she had every right to hate this person, but she was able to be open, which allowed him time to “tweak” vibrations to align himself with his real self to become the one she was hoping for in the end.
Vibrationally - She really lost everything: Her boyfriend; her business – which was her mother’s, so she lost her mother all over again; her legacy – she wanted to leave the bookstore to her daughter one day. She could have become depressed, angry, vengeful, and bitter – closed off. But she chose to look for the silver lining and followed her heart, and ended up with all her dreams coming true.
Work – 3rd generation bookstore owner. Taught to kill, crush, and destroy the competition. He’s so accustomed to crushing his oppositions. It’s War! “It’s not personal, it’s business.” But then it becomes personal. He finds out that the love of his life is his competition and he has indirectly turned his sweet, loving, kind-hearted woman of his dreams into his adversary.
Relationships – He has been taught that marriage is of convenience and not of love. He’s in a superficial relationship. It’s when he’s locked in the elevator that he realizes what his true heart’s desire is. Then during the conversation with his father on the boat he realizes he is just following in his father’s footsteps of relationships of convenience instead of being with “the one person who fills your heart with joy.” It is here he chooses to not be like his father, and to become the person he really wants to be, and to go after who he really wants to be with.
Online friend - When he finds his internet friend, he finds hope; hope for himself that he’s not becoming the “worst version” of himself. It’s through their internet friendship and then their real friendship that he comes into alignment with the man he truly is.
When he went to the coffee shop and she was rude and mean, he wrote her off as “a bitch.” He was done and closed off. But then he reads her email, and he recognizes that he was the one who turned her into the fighting bitch. He gave her that advice and he realized that it would be up to him to “tweak” himself into vibrational alignment with the truth of who he was in the emails and not the enemy he showed himself to be in real life. “It is personal,” she explains. And he finally understands that.
Vibrationally – He also had many options to shut down and turn himself off. He could have become 3rd generation to marry and remarry out of convenience. He could have not cared about the little ‘Shop Around the Corner’ and just crushed it like all the others. He could have stayed in his unfulfilling superficial relationship. He could have just left her in the coffee shop and never spoke to her again. He could have wrote her off as a bitch and left it at that. He could have not made the effort to bring daisies and become her friend. He could have not taken the time to befriend her in person and still be the anonymous love interest on the internet. He could have just rushed and tried to force a relationship, but he carefully tweaked and tuned himself into being his true self and showed her he wasn’t “that guy he showed to the world” but instead he was the “kind and funny, with the most wonderful sense of humor, with not a cruel or careless bone in his body” man she fell in love with.
At every moment in our lives, we have the option to come into alignment with our true selves and our true heart’s desires. You just have to be open and follow your heart.